Even with shows like Bridezillas and My Fair Wedding running rampant, there seems to be a lack of knowledge about common bridal etiquette. But if you want to make it through your wedding, and still maintain your relationships with family and friends, here are some tips when dealing with family, friends and your wedding.

1. Tell close family and friends before announcing the engagement on social media. Your mother doesn’t want to see that you’re getting married because you updated your status to engaged on Facebook. Give those family and friends a call first, before you release the news.
2. Engagement parties do usually have gifts. Registering for an engagement party is in bad form as the marriage is not official yet. Stick to just registering for your wedding if you want to stay in your family’s good graces.
3. Don’t call out guests who don’t RSVP and then show. While it might be irritating, it’s also in bad form to call them out at the event. Instead, most venues recommend having a buffer for guests who didn’t RSVP. You can also stave off trouble by making it easy to RSVP and following up before the wedding by phone, if your guest list is small.
4. An invitation comes with an expectation of a gift, whether or not the guest will attend. That does not mean send invitations in bulk to Donald Trump. That means if someone tells you in advance that they can’t attend, it is considered inappropriate to send an invitation anyway.
5. Don’t expect your bridal party to be an endless financial well. When choosing the attire and the solon, keep in mind that bridesmaids are expected to cover their own costs. It might be inappropriate to demands high end gowns and expensive, complicated hairstyles when you know your bridesmaid can’t afford it. Have a discuss about any financials prior to assigning your bridesmaid duties.
6. Be consistent with Plus Ones. If you know someone has a significant other, send a plus one if you don’t, then don’t. Don’t pick and choose based on the partners you’ve met, otherwise people might take those decisions the wrong way. You failing to send a plus one could be viewed as failure to endorse their relationship and you don’t want that.
7. Don’t do a verbal invite if you don’t follow it up with a paper invite. While you might invite someone in passing, and decide you don’t have room for them later on, know that it technically qualifies as uninviting someone and the person will probably feel slighted. To avoid this, don’t make invitations verbally period.
8. With coworker invitations, try to hand out invites privately, rather than go marching around giving out invites to some, while ignoring others. While it’s unreasonable for all coworkers to expect an invite to someone’s wedding, it’s still considered bad form to rub that in people’s faces.

Bridal etiquette can mean the difference between people remembering your wedding, or remembering what a Bridezilla you were about your wedding. Always be cognizant of other’s feelings when you’re making your decisions, and you’ll stay out of Bridezilla territory.