Dealing With Problem Guests at Your Wedding


Few brides get their perfect wedding day. Anyone who has been through a big wedding knows that there is no way to plan for every contingency. The flowers might be wrong, the caterers might be late or it might rain. However, one of the biggest catastrophes is often something brides have little control over; guests.

A problem guest can ruin a wedding in the time it takes to say ‘I do’. Luckily, problem guests are easy to identify. If you know what you’re dealing with, then it is much easier to plan for problems.

So here are 5 common types of problems guests, as well as how to deal with them.


The sad fact is there are some people who just can’t control themselves when they are drinking. They might get sloppy drunk, make embarrassing speeches or even (God forbid) spend all night throwing up in the bathroom.

Your wedding day should not be a day you spend babysitting a drunken bridesmaid. Be honest when making the guest list. If you have someone on the list that might be a heavy drinker, seriously consider whether it is entirely necessary that they be at the wedding. One of the best ways to manage guests drinking at your wedding it to have a cash bar, or limit the times when drinks will be served.

Buzz Killers

Do you have a friend or relative who is always in a bad mood, never has anything nice to say and is just a general buzz kill? In this case, a clever seating arrangement is your friend. Instead of putting them at a lively table where they could bring everyone down, consider putting them near someone just as bitter as themselves, so they will have someone else to complain to all night.

Young Children


Older children might behave well at a wedding, but younger ones tend to spend the day underfoot. If you are having a wedding where children will be welcome, consider setting up a play area just for children, to keep them off the dance floor and out of the champagne.


Many people feel obligated to invite an ex to their wedding, but spend the day praying that they just won’t show up. Don’t give out pity invites as these often blow up in your face when your ex shows up pissed and bitter. Instead, remember that your wedding is your day and you should only invite people that actually want to see you happy.

Trouble Makers

Every family has one. The uncle who spends most of his time in jail. The cousin who regularly gets arrested for assault charges. The aunt who has a habit of slipping things into her purse that aren’t hers. When you can’t avoid a troublemaker, you need to find a way to control the troublemaker. Above all, don’t make the troublemaker your responsibility. Your day should not be spent monitoring someone else’s behavior. Instead, it should be about having fun. Choose a family member that the person is comfortable with to keep an eye on the problem guest, and then put the problem out of your mind.

Above all, have fun and don’t spend your wedding looking after guests. You want your future wedding story to be about what a great day you had, and not how Aunt Martha got sloppy drunk and threw up on the church organ.

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